My daughter, Brigid, recently told me that I was a little close-minded on some things. Not the kind of thing you want to hear from you daughter, but maybe she’s right.
But right or wrong, she had the guts to say it. It wasn’t said disrespectfully or in the tone teenagers often use when annoyed. Rather it was a matter-of-fact statement, and she had examples to back it up.
Love that little girl. At 15 years old and in high school, she’s gaining confidence all the time. Challenging me now will only make it easier for her to stand her ground and make wise choices when she’s older.
Ultimately, isn’t that what fathers and mothers of girls want? Smart young women who aren’t placed into a subservient role by a boyfriend or husband they fear.
I’ve been thinking a great deal about the issue lately and two popular televisions shows—“Duck Dynasty” and “19 Kids and Counting”—are the reasons why.
I’ve never seen the first show but am aware of the premise. I’ve watched the other one many times, but I’m blaming my wife for drawing me in.
“Duck Dynasty” star Willie Robertson’s daughter, Sadie, is one of the contestants this season on “Dancing With the Stars.”
If you’ve never watched the wildly popular show, it features B- and C-list celebrities paired up with professional dancers in competition assessed by a panel of judges and the folks at home.
Robertson, the conservative fellow with the big beard, believes his daughter has done a great job in the early going, but was upset at comments made last week by new judge Julianne Hough who advised Sadie to get more down and dirty with her dancing.
Hough, by the way, previously was a professional dancer on the show.
Robertson said he planned to talk to Hough about the nature of the remark because her advice was not appropriate for his 17-year-old daughter. For her part, Hough said she did not intend to suggest that Sadie should act more provocatively.
Sadie has been impressive so far, especially as she has no previous experience in choreography or dance. Of course, dancing is banned at her high school in Louisiana, so she’s had little opportunity to cut the rug.
Dad also has been involved with Sadie’s wardrobe choices for the show, rejecting some of them for being too skimpy or whatever.
“It is just basic modesty,” Sadie told ABC News. “It’s out of respect that I ask my dad if it’s OK. I’m a Christian, it comes with me everywhere I go.”
I admire that remark. Sadie understands her family’s belief system, the tenants of her faith, and so on. She acts out of respect to her father. Can’t ask for much more than that.
Dad should be proud, advise his daughter in private, have confidence in her choices and let her be the focus of “Dancing With the Stars.” He needs to trust her and let her enjoy her time in the spotlight.
While Sadie Robertson dances, Jim Bob Duggar’s daughters are getting married and having babies on “19 Kids and Counting.”
You probably know the show. An ultra-conservative, Christian family from Arkansas has 19 kids. The show has followed their growth over the past several years.
The oldest boy is married and has three children. A younger girl, Jill, got married recently and already is pregnant. Her sister, Jessa, is getting married in November. Mom is crazy about the idea of grandbabies.
We’ve watched Jill and Jessa go through their courtships—a word we don’t hear much anymore. Then again, how often do dates include chaperones? But that’s how the Duggar’s roll. Younger siblings typically are chosen to join in on lunch dates or other activities.
Physical contact is verboten. Couples hold hands only after they’re engaged. There’s no kissing until marriage, as it might cause raging hormones to explode.
This season, we’ve seen the young man engaged to Jessa go through Jim Bob for approval. Dad apparently knows what’s best for his girls when it comes to relationships and marriage.
He’s even invited the young man to live in the Duggar family guest house and subsequently gave him a “to do” lists rife with chores with which he was unfamiliar—carpentry tasks and the like.
It was uncomfortable to watch Jim Bob determine if this guy measured up to his standards. Jim Bob seemed to be enjoying the moment, though.
Protecting our daughters is a basic instinct, I suppose, but I believe my wife and I have instilled values in our daughter over the years so she makes her own wise choices when she’s older. We trust her.
Clearly, Jim Bob does not trust his girls, and he certainly doesn’t want to see them empowered. Empowered women are strong and educated, make their own choices and respect dad’s advice but don’t blindly follow every word.
If Jim Bob and his wife raised their children right, taught them conservative and Christian values and instilled in them the family belief system, what’s to worry about now that boyfriends are in the picture?
I doubt Jessa is going to sneak over to the guesthouse to get with her fiancée before their wedding day. It would make for one heck of an episode if she did.
“Jessa sins on the Next ‘19 Kids and Counting’.”